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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
(It's nice to meet you.)
Let me introduce you to our today's guests.
Lee Man Gi!
(Lee Man Gi, the legend of Korean wrestling)
Hello. It's nice to meet you.
- Key of SHINee! - Key!
Hello.
Sol Ji and Jeong Hwa!
(Sol Ji and Jeong Hwa of EXID)
He's a mentor for all students in Korea.
The master of studying, Kang Sung Tae!
(Kang Sung Tae, the master of studying)
It's nice to meet you.
We have diverse guests today.
- Man Gi takes good care of himself. - That's right.
He still looks just as strong and healthy as he was...
when he won the Korean wrestling championship.
I've been trying to stay fit since I retired.
- How? - Really?
- Do you stick to a strict diet? - I lift weights regularly...
and ride a bicycle. Most importantly,
you should eat in moderation.
- I see. - Less carbs?
- You should eat in moderation. - He said you should eat moderately.
- Eat in moderation. - That's the hardest thing to do.
What did he say?
You should eat in moderation.
- Oh, I see. - In fact...
I should talk less.
(She's in denial.)
He has a lot of problems.
For example, just because you were a Korean wrestling champion,
people play jokes on you, right?
Many people think I'm still very strong.
- That's right. - Just like Hercules.
Some people ask me to carry heavy things.
- Carrying heavy things? - I see.
When I'm asked to carry a heavy thing,
I lift it up,
but my arms start shaking.
(Shaking)
- It's embarrassing. - Right.
(That should be embarrassing.)
The master of studying,
- Kang Sung Tae, is also here. - Hello.
Please give him a hand.
It's nice to meet you.
Students recently had the College Scholastic Ability Test.
I heard it was quite difficult this year.
- Korean. - I heard Korean was difficult.
The average score dropped by 10 points...
compared to that of the mock test. Many students didn't get...
the score they wanted. It breaks my heart.
They must be sick and tired...
of talking about the College Scholastic Ability Test.
Tell us a good way to have fun after taking the test.
Are you asking me about a good way to have fun?
I played games...
and watched videos I couldn't watch when I studied.
That's important.
Everyone is thinking about a different kind of video.
They weren't those videos!
- Seriously. - I heard...
you have a problem...
with "Ring Ding Dong" by SHINee.
The chorus is so addictive...
that it continues to play in my head when I need to focus...
- on the test. - You can't forget it.
(Watch out for an addictive song.)
(This is the worst.)
"Fantastic, elastic..."
That part continues to come back.
- It's in my head. - You can't forget it.
We must have sung the song...
tens of thousands times.
When I am on the road after a performance,
(When he is on the road.)
- I can hear it. - Right?
It's like an auditory hallucination.
To be honest, it's not a song I like so much.
I'm serious.
That fact people say it's banned for test takers...
- makes me think it's a good song. - That's right.
Key, you released your first song as a solo artist...
- since your debut. - That's right.
Let's see the performance.
(Expectant)
("One of Those Nights" by Key)
(His performance shows his unrivaled charms.)
(This is fun.)
(He captivates women's hearts.)
(He finishes up with a controlled dance move.)
(Creaking)
(He is cool.)
EXID also has good news.
Sol Ji, it must be nice to return to the group.
I am very happy. During my hiatus,
I travelled a lot and learned many new things.
I am very thankful.
There was a void she had left.
Now that she is back,
every moment is precious...
- and meaningful. - They are good friends.
Let's hear EXID's new song.
Okay.
(Give us a performance of your new song.)
("I Love You" by EXID)
(Swaying)
(This song...)
(is addictive as well.)
("I Love You" by EXID)
Use your legs when your joints are in good condition.
Seriously.
Which worries will we hear about today?
Show us the keywords please.
"My Husband's Two Homes". "I Want to Live Away from Home".
"Not a Monster".
This one is "My Husband's Two Homes".
From the title, it sounds like a serious worry.
The viewers must be thinking,
- "It can't be about an affair." - I'm sure it's not.
But it might be about an affair.
Seriously.
(He is joking.)
Hello.
I am a woman in my 40s with 2 sons who are 3 and 7.
I don't know if I can talk about this on TV,
but my husband has...
two homes.
- "Will you sleep there tonight?" - "Yes."
"You can come tomorrow, right?"
"No, I can't."
My husband is having an affair.
However, it's not the kind of affair you have in mind.
He is addicted to work.
- It's about work. - He spends 24 hours a day...
at his workplace, a factory.
(He spends 24 hours a day at his workplace.)
- 24 hours? - "Honey."
"Our first son will perform at a talent show tomorrow."
"Would you drop by for a second?"
"Gosh, I am busy."
"Our second son's birthday is on the weekend."
"Let's eat dinner together."
"I told you I can't! Would you stop being so annoying?"
It reads on the script, "Annoyed".
There is a star next to it.
- "Annoyed". - I thought he made up those lines.
He startled me.
My husband doesn't take any time off for his family.
He comes home once a month because he has so much work.
I even left home one time.
However, my husband didn't know I had left home...
because he was busy with work.
That's understandable.
Why did my husband marry me?
Please stop my husband from being such a workaholic.
That's the worry.
(Please stop my husband from being such a workaholic.)
Man Gi, have you been addicted to something?
When I was learning billiards in my younger days,
my score was 300.
I was crazy about billiards back then.
I was addicted.
Don't be so cute in front of someone whose score is 500.
That was a long time ago.
He is the master of billiards.
How about you, Sung Tae?
Have you been addicted to something?
Even now, I study 18 hours a day.
I spend my days like a 12th grade student.
This is how far I take it.
I wear purple underwear.
Why?
It reminds of the word, "Purpose".
(What?)
That's ridiculous.
Why did you bring a pen and a notepad?
- I only noticed them now. - Is he studying?
I hold counseling sessions on the internet.
This is a habit I picked up.
These items help me to listen well and offer help.
Let's invite her to the stage. Please welcome her with a big hand.
(Whose husband is addicted to work?)
(Na Yun Hee)
Does your husband not come home because of work?
My husband is a serious workaholic.
We have been together for eight years.
He is a goldsmith.
When we were dating, I decided to marry him...
because he was really diligent.
After we got married, he came home so rarely...
that we moved to the factory.
I thought...
he would change after we had our first child,
so we moved back out.
I moved and cleaned up the house,
but he didn't come home for a month.
(He came home after a month.)
I'm sure he doesn't come home once a month now.
These days, he comes home...
once every 2 or 3 weeks to a month.
Is the house far from the factory?
It takes five minutes to come home from the factory.
Yet he doesn't come home.
He says he can't waste time...
- because of work. - Five minutes.
- It takes five minutes. - In that case,
where does your husband live?
He eats and sleeps at the factory.
He takes care of himself.
He doesn't even call.
How frequent are his calls?
Sometimes, he goes a week without giving me a call.
One time, he didn't call me for 2 or 3 weeks.
A friend of his called me...
and asked me where he was.
I was so worried that I went to the factory.
He was eating ramyeon...
with a smile on his face.
I was so annoyed.
I asked, "Why didn't you answer my call?"
He said, "It was a bother."
(It was a bother.)
"It was a bother"?
How could he give that excuse when his wife called?
Yun Hee, you need to remember...
that we aren't scolding you.
Man Gi, please face forward when you ask a question.
Let's face forward.
Because all of us are staring,
she feels a bit embarrassed.
(Staring)
(16 eyes stare in the same direction.)
He takes care of himself.
(Her eyes shift.)
I have a question.
- That's good. - Face forward.
- Face forward. - Go on.
You said...
he rarely comes home.
Does he not come home even on special days?
Someone in the audience almost answered.
Seriously.
Even on my birthday, he texts me,
"I'm busy at work. I'm sorry."
Even on the children's birthday, he doesn't come home.
When we had the first birthday party...
- for my older son, - I am sure he came.
all the other guests were there,
but he came late.
Even on the day of our wedding,
he came late.
- My goodness. - Is he in the studio right now?
- My goodness. - That's too much.
Where is your husband?
Did you go on a honeymoon?
As for our honeymoon...
(She feels bad.)
You were embarrassed. It's okay. We won't stare at you.
We went somewhere close...
- because of his work. - Where did you go?
We went to Anmyeondo Island for four days.
- Anmyeondo Island? - The thing is...
It wasn't even Jeju Island.
That was our first and the last trip.
- For eight years? - Yes.
We haven't gone on a trip once after that.
I have a question. You said you have children.
- Yes. - How many children do you have?
I have 2 sons. They are 3 and 7 years old.
They are four years apart.
Your husband comes home once a month, and you don't travel.
It's still possible.
It's not easy...
- to have children these days. - Sung Tae.
- Sung Tae. - Did you take notes...
to ask that question?
It's a strange question.
Did such a busy man find the time...
to come here?
If he is here, I want to throw him to the floor.
He stayed up all night yesterday...
and barely managed to come here in the morning.
Thank goodness.
Let's talk to her husband. Hello.
- Hello. - All right.
I am Yun Hee's husband.
You came on time.
I think the aftereffects for this will last for two weeks to a month,
so I can't help but regret my decision.
Skipping a day of work affects 15 to 30 days?
I usually work for about 15 hours a day.
I'll have to work for an extra hour every day...
for the next month.
To make up for today,
he's going to work for an extra hour.
- An extra hour. - Every day...
- for the next 15 days. - That makes sense.
Ms. Na is here today because she's worried,
but she seems to be so happy to see her husband.
When was the last time you saw him?
About two weeks ago.
Look at him closely. He's your husband.
She's laughing.
(Look at him as much as you want.)
Your home is only five minutes away from your work.
Why don't you just go home...
and get some rest?
I have to work continuously.
I don't really want to break the rhythm.
It takes a while for the kilns to heat up.
Then...
when was the last time you took a whole day off?
(Thinking)
It was probably before I got married.
(He last took a day off 7 years ago.)
Eight years ago?
What about during the holidays?
There are usually more orders around the holidays.
There are?
So I can't go home.
- But you could still call her. - Exactly.
My clients often call me to rush me,
and it stresses me out.
So I often put my phone on mute.
Still, you must check...
all the missed calls afterwards.
At some point during the day.
What do you do when you find out your wife called?
I tell myself to call her back later,
but then I get caught up in work.
(It feels like I don't have a husband.)
We don't know much about what a goldsmith does.
Could you tell us a little bit about your work?
I make bracelets, necklaces, rings, and so on.
After casting,
- I carve... - You carve them.
and polish the pieces.
(So much care goes into every step.)
(It takes many different steps to finish a piece.)
Each piece takes anywhere between six hours...
to a couple of days.
Do you work alone?
I'm the only one with the necessary skills.
I just have a part-time assistant.
A part-time assistant.
It seems like his work is very hard.
Can't you try to understand him?
He makes jewelry for other people all the time, but...
He doesn't make anything for you?
- He's never made a ring for me. - Seriously?
(That's too much.)
That's too much.
(He only works hard for other people.)
He says he's too busy.
- She has no ring. - There's no ring...
on her finger.
I get so many orders.
You're just using others as an excuse.
(Is that your excuse?)
Who are your customers?
(How could he put off something like that?)
When I gave birth to our first child,
he came to see the baby and went back to work right away.
And then...
- I saw other husbands... - She got hurt.
stay with their wives.
They took such good care of their wives...
and congratulated them.
I felt so jealous.
When I gave birth to our second child,
I had to take care of our first child too.
He was with me.
- It was so hard. - Of course.
While you were recovering,
- did he come to see you? - No.
He was too busy with work.
I had a lot of orders back then too.
- He had a lot of orders. - He had a lot of orders.
Who are your customers?
I was getting too many calls.
Who keeps ordering jewelry from him?
(Frustrated)
When she was in the last trimester of her pregnancy,
- couldn't you reduce your workload? - You could have adjusted it.
With another member joining our family,
we'd have more expenses.
You thought you should work even harder.
That's why I worked even harder.
(What I needed was you.)
When he finally comes home after a month, does he play with the kids?
No.
(A dad's role is important.)
When I take the kids outside,
they see other dads...
playing with their kids and feel jealous.
Of course.
Until our first child turned four,
he'd ask his dad, "Who are you?"
- Until he turned four? - "Who are you?"
When my husband said, "I'm your dad", and tried to hold him,
he'd start crying and hide.
He must have felt uncomfortable.
When our second child misses his dad,
I usually put him on a video call with his dad.
So whenever my phone rings, he thinks it's his dad and says,
"Is it Dad? Give me the phone."
He thinks his dad is always in the phone.
(His dad lives in the phone.)
I really want to take the wife's side.
Their kids are 3 and 7 years old right now,
and this period will never come back.
- He can't be with them. - It'll just pass by.
I do feel bad about that.
But my wife has friends,
and our children have friends too...
who can be there for them.
But they're not your children's dad.
Their dad is always away.
I do understand you have to work hard, but...
- Right now... - Here comes their son.
(Their son enters.)
- Oh, my. - I have no choice.
They should take this chance and spend some time together.
Go to your dad.
His name is Jun Su.
Jun Su.
He's definitely your son.
- They look alike. - He's so cute.
(He's definitely their son.)
- Hi, Jun Su. - He's so cute.
Can I ask you a few questions?
Yes.
There are 12 questions. Is that okay?
- Please take a few away. - Take a few away?
- Should we take a few away? - He's so cute.
What about 7 or 5 questions?
Five questions, please.
Okay.
Jun Su.
Does your dad come home often?
No.
That's one question.
(One chance is gone.)
His answer was so short.
Jun Su.
Why are you holding your dad's hand?
(Why are you holding your dad's hand?)
(Shy)
- It's okay. - You can hold his hand.
- Hold his hand. - Hold his hand.
Are you happy to hold your dad's hand?
(Yes)
- He's happy. - Do you want to...
- hold his hand every day? - Yes.
(Yes)
(I want to be with my dad.)
(It makes me happy.)
Does your dad play with you often?
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Do you want to see him every day?
- Yes. - Right?
You want to sleep, eat,
- and play with him, right? - Yes.
(I'm sorry.)
Let me ask you one last question.
When do you think...
Trump and Kim Jong Un will...
(No one has asked a question like this before.)
Kids are surprisingly insightful.
When they will talk again?
- Next year? - Yes.
It's next year.
(Peace will come in 2019.)
Can I ask you one more question?
He says no.
- Just one more. - It's something important.
Why did you ask that one?
Jun Su, just one more question.
- Just one more. - Just one more.
(Nodding)
- Okay. - What are you doing right now?
- He's a boy. - She's different from you.
Is there anything you want to say to your dad?
Dad, come home every day.
(Dad, come home every day.)
(Jun Su misses his dad.)
(Can you see how your children feel?)
To tell you the truth,
Jun Su is in play therapy.
- Since... - Play therapy.
his parents don't give him enough love,
he is a bit emotionally deprived.
He doesn't get enough love from his dad.
I became a bit depressed too.
I was in therapy...
for more than a year. My counselor thought...
my husband worked too much...
and asked him to work less.
But nothing has changed.
I...
(His blood pressure goes up.)
I mean...
Is it okay if I get angry?
It's okay. It'll only damage your image.
Do whatever you want.
(Laughing)
Your whole family is...
suffering emotionally.
Is there a special reason why you work so much?
Before I got married, I got conned...
and owed about 100,000 dollars.
That's a lot.
I've paid off all my debts now.
But to make matters worse,
my wife was conned too...
and owed some money a few years ago.
(What did you just say?)
We paid most of it off,
but that's partly why I work so much.
The situation becomes...
(What is going on here?)
(Good that I didn't get angry.)
- Hold on. - This is...
I don't want to get involved in this tricky situation.
I shouldn't take anyone's side.
- I'm so shocked. - What happened?
How did you decide to appear on this show?
(Criticizing)
You were conned?
Think about it.
I had to take care of both children by myself,
and I was stressed out.
My parents passed away early.
Your parents?
I had no one to turn to, and it was just too much.
In the end, I went to a fortune teller.
And that fortune teller told me...
my children were going to die.
- That's how I got conned. - Of course.
So...
Didn't you ask your husband's opinion?
I did. He told me I could do whatever I wanted.
She must have had no one to rely on.
The fortune teller kept talking about my family.
- That's why. - You fell for it.
I wanted my family to live happily.
(I just wanted to be happy.)
(She must have been so lonely.)
Many athletes believe in superstitions.
When their games don't go well, they rely on them.
But at some point, I realized they were useless.
They never work.
You know I've run for election, right?
At that time,
I talked to many fortune tellers,
and none of them told me I was going to lose.
But I lost all the elections.
(Lee Man Gi Loses Again)
That's why I don't...
- My goodness. - It's a good experience.
You should have asked us.
We all knew you were going to lose.
(His junior entertainers knew he would lose.)
Exactly. He didn't have to go to fortune tellers.
(The three fortune tellers)
(Try again in your next life!)
Whom do you talk to when you're stressed out?
- You need someone to vent to. - I'm curious about it too.
When I meet my oldest son's friends' moms,
we talk to each other about what stresses us out.
I vent to them.
One of her oldest son's friends' moms is here.
Does she look very stressed out?
She looks very tired from looking after her kids alone.
One day, a drunken man knocked on the door,
which scared her. And not long ago, she and her kids...
went on a trip without her husband.
She became a victim of road rage.
The man swore at her and looked down on her.
I thought it would've been better...
if her husband had been there with her.
I see.
How did you feel when you heard about this incident?
Of course, I was worried a lot.
However, my wife sometimes get angry...
or throw tantrums at me because of these incidents.
Because I didn't want to have a fight,
- I see. - I have slept at the factory...
- You avoided her. - to avoid a fight...
(He slept at the factory on purpose.)
(He tends to avoid his wife.)
I used my work as an excuse.
I assumed he tried to avoid me, but...
Since my oldest son was 1 year old until he was 6,
he had febrile seizures.
Since my husband wasn't at home whenever my kid had a seizure,
- I was scared. - Of course.
Even when I took him to a hospital,
my husband stopped by briefly and went back to work.
- I was alone... - You can take care of your kids.
- What do you do when you're sick? - Exactly.
Whenever I got sick, I felt like a sinner.
My husband got upset because he couldn't go to work.
One time, I went to a hospital because my arm hurt.
And it turned out I had a tumor in my arm.
I had to set my surgery date...
when my husband didn't have work to do.
(She even adjusted her surgery date based on his work schedule.)
As soon as I woke up from general anesthesia,
he left me alone with the kids...
and went back to work.
Sir, don't you think it was too harsh?
- I know... - I think he's used to being alone.
- It's not just because of work. - Jeong Hwa.
Try not to look too upset.
You're looking like a group leader, not the youngest member.
- Right. - Make a cute face.
- Okay. - Make a cute face.
I think you were too harsh.
- I was too busy... - Here he goes again.
Can't you outsource some portion of work or something?
Let me ask you a straightforward question.
How long will you continue...
going home once every three weeks? When will you change?
I think it'll take me about five years...
to stabilize our family's finances.
But I think I can be more dedicated to my family...
after about two years.
He says the same thing whenever we fight.
- He says that all the time? - Yes.
He always tells me to wait for 2 or 3 years.
We were almost fooled by him.
So I ended up having negative thoughts.
I once went on a trip for five days without calling him.
I just sent a text message to him.
I went overseas.
(She ran away from home and went overseas.)
(She took a strong measure.)
I think he didn't even know...
- you were gone. - What about the kids?
- Let's ask her husband. - What happened?
(I didn't know she left home at first.)
- I didn't know at first. - He didn't even know.
I became worried about her.
So I reported it to the police.
The police said the last place she was located...
was Incheon International Airport.
So I figured that she went on a trip.
- Until she came back... - He's so relaxed.
I wonder what makes him so relaxed.
- I looked after our kids. - Then...
did you take a few days off work to look after the kids?
He knew it'd be dangerous,
but he left the kids at the factory unattended.
He didn't look after them. He just kept them near him.
I maintained our marriage...
only because of our kids. If it hadn't been for them,
I would have left him a long time ago.
(Her husband put his work first even in important moments.)
He never treated me like a woman...
or said warm things to me.
You could have expressed your affection for her.
You could've thanked her for all the work she did...
and apologized for not being there when she was sick.
I'm not good at expressing my feelings.
- He's never done it before. - I just...
Not once?
Sung Tae, do you show your affection for your family?
My family and I went through a hard time for a while,
- but we patched things up. - I see.
I saw the painting that my child drew at kindergarten.
And I was very shocked...
- because I was so small. - You were small.
- Your kid drew you tiny. - I heard children's paintings...
reflect the presence of their families.
I thought I might become a dot or even disappear.
- A dot? - So...
So I made a decision.
I realized that I spent all my time with other people's children.
- That's right. - I hated myself for that.
I told myself to do my best to make them happy...
at least when I'm with my children.
(You have to do your best as a father.)
I understand that you're busy working,
but I think you've been a coward.
It seems to me you avoided being with your family intentionally...
because you felt more comfortable when you were alone.
I believe it made up at least 30 percent of the reason.
How do you want your wife to treat you?
What can she do to make you come home more often?
Please be honest with us.
- She always looks angry. - She's sensitive.
I think that's why I avoided going home.
If she prepares dinner for me and welcomes me...
with a smile, I think I will go home...
more often.
Could you be more specific on how often you'll go home?
Give us a realistic number.
(Taken aback)
(You need to change.)
I can do what he wants, but he has never...
Then does he make physical contact when he comes home?
- No, he doesn't. - Gosh. You...
- I'm sorry. - Their kids...
- Calm down. - Their kids are 3 and 7 years old.
I think you need to make an effort too.
I know it won't be easy to change overnight.
But you can try to smile more often and say some nice things...
- when you come home. - Okay.
- He'll come home once a week. - I can do that.
I want him to come home at least once a month...
to spend the whole day with the kids.
Once a month?
I want him to pay more attention to our children.
Also, I want to be loved and get attention...
from my husband as a woman, not just as a mom.
That's the most important thing.
I don't even remember when was the last time...
that we were alone together and had a nice conversation.
(I don't remember when we last had a nice conversation.)
(That's true.)
Let's spend some time together.
Are you very lonely?
- Of course she does. - Of course.
(She needs her husband, and your kids need their father.)
(Writing)
I did a calculation while listening to you guys.
You meet your family about once a month, right?
You spend half a day with your family.
- Let's say you do it once a month. - Okay.
If you keep going on like this,
considering the average life expectancy of 80 years,
the time you have left...
to spend with your children...
- How much time does he have left? - is 100 days.
(6 hours after work 12 times a year for the next 33 years)
- 100 days? - Yes.
You can do the calculation yourself.
- If he keeps going on like this? - Yes.
(You've been losing time to spend with your family.)
I hope you'll realize you don't have much time left to spend with them...
and live each day to the fullest.
(We hope you make good memories with your family.)
Sir, please pick up the mic. This is your last chance.
- Tell her your honest feelings. - Be honest.
If you can't change, tell her you can't change.
I'll go home at least once a week...
- to spend time with my family. - At least once a week?
At least once a week.
I will eat dinner with my family.
Making money is important,
but I will become more dedicated to my family.
I'll make you happy.
Dad, come home every day.
(We hope your kids won't be missing you anymore.)
(Be home with your children from now on.)
(Please keep your promise.)
We'll start with Sung Tae. Press it if you think it's a worry.
- I think it's a worry. - Press the button.
Press the circle.
I think it's definitely a worry.
You need to rethink the top priority in your life.
You think it's a worry.
- I think it's a worry. - You also think it's a worry.
Needless to say, it's a worry.
Press the button if you think it's a worry.
(What does the audience think?)
"My Husband's Two Homes".
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
How many votes did she get? Please show us the result.
(The result)
"My Husband's Two Homes". The last digit is zero.
Is it over 100?
- I think it's over 100. - Among 200 people,
how many gave her a vote?
140? She got 150 votes.
(150 votes)
"My Dream Is Independence".
Hello. I'm a woman in my 30s who wishes to live her life...
just as she wants.
Since I was a child,
I had to follow my dad's orders.
"Wake up when the sun comes up,"
"and tidy up your bed as soon as you wake up."
"Your curfew is 8pm."
"And you..."
(Is there more?)
"will go overseas to study next month."
- He makes every decision for her. - That's right.
(He made a life plan for her.)
She studied overseas too.
Even after I became an adult...
"Dad, well... This is my boyfriend."
"How dare you? What are you doing?"
"Book a wedding venue immediately."
- What? - Not breaking up with him?
- No. - That's unexpected.
"Did you find a house to live in? Hurry the process."
From the school to marriage, I've been living as my dad wants.
However, the problem...
is that they still meddle in my life five years after I got married.
- They still meddle in her life? - Yes.
This is what her mother does.
"Are you up? Did you make breakfast for your husband?"
"Are you still sleeping when it's weekend today?"
"If you don't do this, you'll be scolded by your dad."
I am a 35-year-old woman with 2 children.
Until when do I need to live this way?
Please let me be independent from my parents.
(I want to be independent.)
I guess her father isn't busy.
He should become a goldsmith.
(He should become a goldsmith.)
Seriously.
These are two extremes.
I know.
Sol Ji, what are your parents like?
When I was sick,
my mom looked after me like a baby.
I had to tell her,
"I can do things by myself."
After that,
she doesn't interfere much.
- She respects your decision. - Yes.
Sung Tae, you are the master of studying.
Did your parents keep a tight leash on you...
so that you would study?
I wanted them to do that for me.
- They didn't do that. - No.
Since I am the oldest son, they used to look after me.
Then they stopped .
There was a reason why they did that.
I signed up to do my military service...
in the Marine Corps.
I enlisted without telling my family.
You enlisted without telling your family?
After I made that big decision...
without them,
they stopped meddling with my business.
They are afraid I would do something similar.
I would have asked you to continue...
had we had more time.
Why did you join the Marine Corps...
without telling your family?
Please answer that question if we meet again.
All right.
That's a good idea.
(The person who sent the worry is waiting.)
All right.
This woman is struggling due to her parents' excessive love.
Please come on out.
(Whose parents are meddlesome?)
(Jin Hyun A)
Hello.
(You can take my hand.)
(I am jealous of her.)
Shouldn't you have asked for your father's permission?
She nodded. Really?
Do you still live...
under your parents' control?
- Yes. - That's too much.
I can tell you what it's like.
It's like I'm a puppet,
and my parents are the puppet masters.
I always needed my parents' permissions.
They hate lazy people.
I had to wake up at a certain time and live my days to the fullest.
Since I had a curfew,
I had to come home at a certain time.
One day, they told me, "Go abroad to study."
I did that.
I thought I would be more independent abroad.
That's right. You lived away from your parents.
They spent a lot of money on overseas calls to control me.
They called.
(It's suffocating.)
They usually called the dormitory...
to see if I am in my room.
It was their way of seeing is I am out...
until late at night.
Even after I returned to Korea,
they meddled with job hunting and such.
They kept an eye on me.
In the worry you sent us,
you said your parents told you to marry your boyfriend...
when you introduced him to them.
I let my parents...
say hello to my boyfriend.
- It was casual. - Yes, it was.
I wasn't asking them to give me permission to get married.
Did you intend to dump him...
after fooling around with him?
(Did you intend to dump him after fooling around with him?)
Fooling around?
As soon as we sat down, they said,
"Go home and arrange a meeting before the marriage."
(Arrange a meeting before the marriage.)
"Once you have the date, give us a call."
Your husband must have been flustered.
Yes. They said that.
From the wedding venue to the apartment,
they asked me everything.
"Did you decide on the wedding venue?"
- They didn't stop. - I was so annoyed...
that I went to the closest wedding venue...
with my dad.
I signed the contract before his very eyes.
"Now that it has been decided, please stop interfering."
- He must have backed off a bit. - However,
there was the issue of the apartment.
To find the right apartment,
I visited each one...
with my dad.
He kept sighing...
because he didn't like what I had found.
In the end, we moved into the apartment my parents found.
How close is it from your parents' place?
It's very close. It's right next to it.
As we speak,
Sung Tae is taking notes.
(Curious)
What are you writing down?
You should take notes of someone's worries.
You are taking notes on the general information.
To be honest, I am writing,
"I will be good to my family."
Seriously.
Does that mean...
your parents meddle...
even after marriage?
My dad is authoritative.
"I am right, so you should listen to me."
- He has all the answers. - My mom...
takes action.
- Your mom does that. - She listens to Dad...
and delivers the message to me.
"You should listen to your dad."
- She does that. - They are a team.
Even after marriage, they call me 10 times a day.
(They call her 10 times a day.)
- 10 times? - In a day?
- Yes. - That's unbelievable.
(That's unbelievable.)
My husband suffers because of them.
I feel really sorry about that.
How far does their meddling go?
They know the passcode to our apartment.
(They know the passcode to her apartment.)
- That's bad. - That rarely happens...
- these days. - Seriously.
There was a time my husband was in his underwear.
- My goodness. - Because of them,
I feel really bad for him.
Do they open the door unannounced?
They have done that.
When I am sleeping in,
they go, "Why are you still in bed?"
They didn't tell you they will come.
We are one minute apart.
(This is my apartment.)
(He is shocked.)
There was a time...
my parents were overly meddlesome.
I told them in seriousness, "I hope you wouldn't do that."
"I am afraid I won't be able to do anything alone."
- "I will take care of myself." - Key is wise.
Then I learned from making mistakes.
- I am jealous of him. - The experiences...
help me throughout my life.
Can't you tell your parents,
"I will take care of myself..."
"from now on"?
- Can't you do that? - I have done that.
I guess they can't trust anything I do.
When your parents teach you...
how to ride a bicycle,
they hold it from behind.
They have to let go at some point.
Then you go, "I moved forward without help."
- That's how you learn. - That's right.
Her dad is holding onto it until the end.
He won't let go.
He is basically on the back seat.
He has his hands on the handles.
He is pedaling, too.
(He is pedaling, too.)
It looks like...
her dad can't accept a single mistake.
- That's right. - He wants her to be perfect.
He wants her to be perfect in every way.
Let's meet her mom and dad...
- and talk to them. - I am curious about them.
- Hello. - Hello.
(Who are the parents who control their 35-year-old daughter's life?)
Hello.
Do you understand your daughter's worry?
How can it be a worry when I am doing this for her sake?
- I see. - We feel like...
you are a bit excessive.
She can't do anything right by herself.
As her dad,
it's my job to help her.
She is married.
She still can't do anything right.
Did you do everything right when you were young?
I think I did everything right...
by myself.
(He was born perfect.)
(It's impossible to reason with him.)
Did your father treat you like this?
No, he didn't.
I moved away from home at a young age.
- You struggled. - I struggled...
and worked.
As a predecessor in life,
I am passing on my know-how.
If you try to get back up after falling once,
your peers will already be ahead of you.
It's a cruel society.
I don't want that to happen to my daughter.
It's love.
You don't want her...
- to fail even once. - He can't accept it.
- I am a perfectionist... - You are a perfectionist.
in every way.
When I worked,
my team always placed first.
I was in a company that fights...
- environmental pollution. - I see.
When I do the dishes,
I see rice on the plates.
Then I eat it...
before I do the dishes.
(He eats it before he does the dishes.)
I want my daughter to have...
my mindset,
but it's impossible for her.
It's frustrating.
Do you think you can shape her the way you want?
I want my friends and acquaintances to go,
"You raised your child well."
Everyone would want that.
(His mindset is outdated.)
You want to hear that.
(I am sure you want to hear that.)
You think she is lacking,
but we think she is great.
It's not easy to speak so confidently...
before the cameras.
Does she still seem lacking to you?
Yes.
Can you elaborate?
- How is she lacking? - How is she lacking?
I say that because of the way she lives.
- I see. - She is a married woman...
with two children.
Still, she acts like she is playing house.
If I let her be,
- she won't improve at all. - What?
- Playing house. - I see.
- Playing house. - That's right.
If I don't meddle in her business,
she will continue to be that way.
I heard you talk to your wife...
and your wife talks to Hyun A.
Maybe she has a different idea.
I agree with my husband.
(Frustrated)
I find her behaviors frustrating.
When Hyun A doesn't do something, my husband gets mad at me.
Because he gets mad at me,
I push my daughter.
Hyun A has to deal with everything.
I am not a scary man.
(What did I hear?)
You look like a nice man.
Do you think, "Hyun A must be frustrated"?
Yes. In terms of problems,
my husband takes 70 percent while Hyun A takes 30 percent.
Hyun A has problems as well.
What do you mean?
She's not good at housework.
What do you mean by that?
My son-in-law goes to work at 5:30am.
If she can't make him breakfast,
she should wake up and see him off.
She should at least see him off before he leaves.
But she uses her small children as an excuse not to care.
She doesn't even know if he is coming in or going out.
- I... - You are her mother, right?
I am.
You are her mother, right?
That's something her husband's mother should be saying.
Right. She's her mother, and yet...
Even mothers-in-law these days don't say such things.
Do you think she uses her children as an excuse?
- It's tough though. - She could...
make him a drink...
at least give him a glass of milk before he leaves.
She really loves her son-in-law.
Is your husband very conservative?
He is very conservative, inflexible, and...
Shouldn't she be sitting here?
- Ma'am. - Did you want to be on Hello?
Why...
He's from Chungcheong Province, and he's the eldest grandson.
- The eldest grandson. - It was very tough...
for me to be the eldest daughter-in-law.
After living together for 37 to 38 years,
I am becoming more like him.
(She's becoming more and more like her husband.)
Before I got married, my friend told me this.
When you first get married, your wife doesn't cook well.
But if you say she's a bad cook and that her food is bad,
she just chooses not to cook anymore.
If you don't do it, you can't get better at it.
After I got married, whenever my wife cooked,
I told her that her food was good.
I think my daughter doesn't even want to learn to cook.
My son-in-law once said the bean sprout soup...
my daughter cooked tasted like tap water.
(Her daughter's bean sprout soup tasted like tap water.)
- She... - Who said that?
- My son-in-law said that. - Your son-in-law?
- But she did her best. - Tap water.
My son-in-law cooks better.
- Does he? - Yes.
- But... - It's fine.
I've been married for 28 years.
One day I was passing by a store that sells side dishes.
Do you know what the owner said to me?
"Aren't our side dishes delicious?"
(It's scary.)
- Did you only find out recently? - Yes.
I found out about it only recently.
I thought my wife cooked everything.
(He was shocked by it.)
- A lot of people do that. - It's fine.
Now that you have children of your own,
can't you understand your mom a little better?
I think she's doing it for my own good.
But she also interferes in the way I bring up my children.
When I say "Don't do it" to my child, she scolds me for it.
When I say, "What's wrong with you?" she yells at me for it.
She meddles in every move I make to raise my children.
She also interferes in our financial situation too.
I am very satisfied with my life.
- That's good enough. - But she's so worried.
One morning, she pressed the passcode and entered our house.
"I will watch the kids. Go apply for a house."
It had only been 100 days since I gave birth to my second child.
I put on my clothes, got the application form,
and went there. It was a cold day,
and I stood in line for about six hours.
I managed to apply for a house.
She doesn't do anything if we leave her alone.
She just becomes content with her life.
She says she is happy and satisfied with her life.
But if she saves as little as 30 dollars a month,
it will become a good life habit.
I don't know why she can't do that.
We keep interfering because she can't do it herself.
That's why we keep nagging her to do things.
Why did she have to put me in this position...
for the foolish things she did?
You son-in-law is sitting next to you.
Don't you think they have their own plans to be happy?
Why are you neglecting all of their plans?
I think they don't...
have any plans of their own.
Have you ever given them the chance to speak?
They didn't seem to have any plans.
- Did you never ask? - So I didn't bother to ask.
Ma'am, you are in the middle. Did you ask them?
Did you ask them what their plans are?
I just don't mention it. I am afraid I will get yelled at.
My husband shouts.
- Then... - My husband is not well.
What?
He collapsed once from a cerebral infarction.
He was rushed to an emergency room several times.
- He can't control the anger. - Right.
When he talks, since his blood pressure is high,
I try not to agitate him. That's why I pestered my daughter more.
(That made her pester her daughter more.)
Does she nag at your husband too?
Usually, a mother-in-law is careful with her son-in-law.
My husband doesn't know much about housekeeping.
So one time he poured oil down the drain.
And my mother nagged at him...
- for pouring oil... - She nagged at him.
down the drain.
Because she's my mom,
- I feel sorry to him. - You feel sorry.
By the way, your husband is...
Hello. I am the son-in-law.
Hello.
This year, I haven't seen someone with such a grim face.
(He's got a very grim face.)
She interferes quite a lot.
I often wore sweatpants.
And my mother-in-law told me I should wear cotton pants...
instead of sweatpants since my father-in-law hates them.
You have to wear cotton pants to walk around in front of the house?
Yes. In my case, I just say okay when they are in front of them.
- Buy you wear them anyway. - Yes. I still wear them.
(He still wears them.)
By the way, you are the one with the most objective view.
What is the atmosphere like when the three of them are together?
In my opinion, the three of them...
have similar personalities.
(They are very similar.)
They only say what they want to say.
They don't listen to what other people have to say.
This happened recently.
They were talking about whether or not you are taxed...
when you work part-time.
- For a part-time job. - Yes.
They fought about that for an hour. They shouted at each other.
They had a war of words.
Talking about what they want to say, they don't listen to what I say.
It's frustrating and really tough.
(She feels sorrier.)
My dad is a maverick,
and he always says what he says is right.
So I tend to argue my opinions more strongly.
Since I was young, I've been living under his oppressive control.
Honestly, I had to follow whatever he said.
But he still does this even though I'm married and have a family.
That's why I keep losing my temper.
- You rebel against him. - Right. I rebel against him.
Whenever he talks, I don't want to listen to him.
I want to do what I want to do.
- You're already a grown-up. - Right.
- I am a grown-up. - You've been hurt.
Right.
(How is she hurt inside?)
He has a sharp tongue.
My feelings got hurt so many times.
He said I should start working too.
He even tried to control that.
I applied for many jobs and had a lot of interviews,
but I never got a job offer.
My dad told me...
that it was because I was fat.
(He said it was because she was fat.)
(No way.)
'If I was the interviewer, I would think you're lazy..."
- "because you are fat." - You shouldn't...
- "So I wouldn't hire you." - criticize her appearance.
He said that.
I got a cash advance...
from my credit card company.
I need cash urgently.
(She needed to do it because it was urgent.)
He said, "You live life getting cash advance?"
"If you will live like that, just don't live."
- My goodness. - He said those things.
- He was so extreme. - Yes.
I was hurt many times by those words.
At the age of 30...
Even if I had things I wanted to do, I couldn't insist on doing them.
And it caused a panic disorder.
(She suffered from a panic disorder.)
Even in that situation, he never comforted me.
(He never comforted her.)
- What did he say? - "Has it been tough?"
I think he doesn't even know that I suffered from it.
(Her dad doesn't even know that she suffered from it.)
(She's sad.)
Do you know what a panic disorder is?
Do you know that she suffered from it?
No, it was my first time hearing it.
- Did you not know? - Did you not know?
You just heard about it. How does it make you feel?
- I am a little flustered. - Right.
But parents are all the same.
We say things for the sake of our children.
(He keeps repeating himself.)
I am not saying this is you, Yeong Ja.
After giving birth to children, she gained more than 10kg.
She gained more than 10kg.
(She freezes.)
He's not saying that's you.
This is not about you.
You are strange. He's not talking about me.
If you laugh, it becomes like it's about me.
Just take it like nothing is wrong. I am perfectly fine.
- This is not about me. - My daughter...
is very lazy and... How should I put it?
She looks slow.
She should work out...
and build strength.
It's frustrating to see her doing nothing about it.
I don't like that.
(It must be stifling.)
This is how I felt listening to you.
If I was your daughter,
I wouldn't go to you...
when I am going through something really tough.
I wouldn't ask for your help.
- She wouldn't be comforted. - It's because...
I don't want you to see the bad side of me.
(She wouldn't want her dad to see the bad side of her.)
I talk to a lot of students.
Do you know which question they most frequently ask me?
You would think they would ask me about how to study.
About how to get better grades...
- and how to study well. - You think that. Don't you?
- It's not that. - Is it not that?
The question they most frequently ask me is...
"Can I do it?"
That's the most frequently asked question.
- "Can I do it?" - They lack confidence.
That question is actually meaningless.
I can't tell them, "You can't do it. You're doomed."
I can't say that to them.
Children really lack encouragement.
Sometimes, I tell them. "Of course you can do it. Why can't you?"
"What do you lack?" When I tell them that, they cry.
- Right. - Have you ever told her that?
What do you think about what he said?
(Have you ever said small words of encouragement?)
- I sympathize with him. - Right.
I don't know why I... I think it's my personality.
The highest compliment I can give is,
"Let's eat dinner together."
That's the sweetest thing I can manage to say.
I can't say, "You did very well."
- I can't do that. - Does she...
Does she know that that's your best compliment?
- No. - She didn't know that.
Do you get it now?
He says that very rarely,
but I didn't know it was a compliment.
- She didn't know. - She found out only now.
"Let's eat together" was a compliment.
Did you get a lot of compliments?
- No. Not a lot. - It's strange...
- for her. - I've heard it though.
"Why does he want to have dinner when he told me to lose weight?"
(Why does he want to have dinner when he told me to lose weight?)
They speak different languages.
- They do. - Completely different languages.
There is a right way to praise a child.
Let's say a child came first in his class. "Congratulations."
"Do better."
That's how most people praise a child.
A better compliment is this.
"I knew you'd come in first."
("I knew you'd come in first.")
"You worked so hard."
"So I knew you would come in first."
If you praise the process...
not the result,
the child studies much harder.
I'm sure he said "I knew it"...
many times to her too.
"I knew that would happen."
"I knew it."
That's how he must've said it.
Did you know...
about your father's health issue?
I think that's what made me come to Hello.
Because I can't communicate with him,
we became very distant.
One day, I heard my dad was sick.
When I went home, I thought about it.
"What if he's not there anymore?"
"I can live with it."
You might think like that.
That's how much we grew apart.
You must've surprised yourself.
Yes. It made me wonder if I am such a cold person.
I was surprised.
(Her broken heart breaks his heart.)
The fact that she's saying this here...
means that she doesn't want to grow any more distant from you.
She's sending the signal.
What do you think about that?
I am very shocked today.
I didn't know she would go that far.
- It's very tough for me. - Isn't it?
- He's shocked. - So...
It's not about whether or not...
your methods are right.
It looks like your methods haven't been proven effective.
Right.
(Whether it's right or wrong, his methods haven't been effective.)
Even right before coming here, I thought like this.
"How is this a worry?"
"She wouldn't even get 10 votes. This is ridiculous."
But seeing my daughter...
talking about her worries to me...
for the first time,
I feel very grateful to her.
It's amazing that he's admitting his faults.
- Let's give it up for her. - He's great.
(They clap for her father for admitting his faults.)
Even I think...
Well done, sir.
I feel a little less frustrated now.
That's good.
Anyway, I hope you will do your best.
He still can't give up.
- He didn't give up yet. - I thought he was going to say...
that he will do his best as her father.
(He didn't expect that answer.)
Will you say that?
I will do my best to resolve your worry.
Sir.
She has two children.
She is like a hero to us.
In our case, we can't raise children because we are not capable.
- And... - I hope something good...
will happen to you too, Yeong Ja.
(Is that a blessing?)
Just accept the differences.
(Being different is not wrong.)
I am not wrong. I am just different.
- Right. - I'm going to collapse.
(It's a sad ending.)
If your father doesn't meddle with your life anymore,
what do you want to do?
We urgently need to improve...
- our relationship. - Right.
I want to hold his hand...
- and go on a date. - How lovely is that?
I want him to stop saying that everything is a waste of money.
It's just that we love in different ways.
I love her dearly too.
- Of course. - Do you really love her a lot?
- I do. - Do you love her like crazy?
(She checks how much he loves his daughter.)
(He freezes.)
Why don't you call her name and tell her you love her?
Honey.
I love you.
(He tells her daughter that he loves her.)
He's a romantic.
"I love you. I love you."
Of course he does.
Right now, I am really happy with my family.
Please watch how I live.
- Lovely. - Thank you.
Let's start with Key.
I think it's a worry.
- It's a worry. - I think it's a worry too.
Supporting his daughter to do what she wants to do...
and seeing how happy it makes her...
will make him much happier than seeing her...
being forced to do what he wants her to do...
and being pleased with it alone.
- That's what I think. - Right.
I think it's a worry.
If you sympathize with her,
please press the button.
(Please send us various stories about worries.)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
(The sound of the buttons makes him sensitive.)
Time's up.
Her father is utterly shocked.
He expected 10 votes.
So many people pressed the button.
Sir, please say something to your daughter...
and to your son-in-law.
Hyung Tak and my daughter.
From now on, I will stop talking.
I will say my highest compliment.
I will treat you to dinner. The dinner is on me.
- That's the best compliment. - That's the best compliment.
(Everyone exclaims.)
All right. Please reveal the result.
Here is the result.
"My Husband's Two Homes" got...
150 votes.
- Come on. - They will win if they get 154.
Let's see.
(How many people sympathized with her?)
(134 votes)
It's titled "Not a Monster".
She's a lady in her 20s.
Hello.
(Shouting)
(He's very cute.)
(Yeong Ja bursts into laughter.)
- Aren't you embarrassed? - No.
It's been just over a year since I got married.
First, I will brag about my husband.
He's got double eyelids, big eyes,
nose as sharp as Pinocchio,
and a face as slender as a woman's face.
Thanks to his handsome face,
he draws attention wherever he goes.
"Hey. Hey. Look at him."
"Didn't he get so much plastic surgery?"
- Plastic surgery? - "From eyes to nose,"
"he must've gotten everything done."
People always suspect that my husband had plastic surgery.
What's more upsetting is that...
What's upsetting is that...
he has never gotten surgery.
"Did you get a nose job? Did you or did you not?"
"Can I touch it?"
"I didn't get anything done. What's wrong with you?"
"Don't do it."
"If you feel so bad, prove it."
"Try lifting up your nose."
"Lift it up."
Isn't it too insulting?
I feel so upset.
My husband didn't have any plastic surgery.
Please help us prove it.
(Help prove that my husband hasn't gotten plastic surgery.)
Man Gi, there is a rumor that you went under the knife...
to get those heart-shaped claves.
- He injected something? - He injected something.
- He wanted to make them big. - Yes.
I didn't get anything done to it.
- Is it true? - There's a rumor you did.
Is it natural? We would know it when we see it.
- Look at that. - No way.
- I didn't get surgery. - Please flex your muscle.
- Show it to us. - Let's see it.
(This is the champion's heart-shaped muscle.)
I didn't get surgery.
It's proven that he didn't get a surgery.
What do you think about the story?
Isn't she just bragging?
Bragging? Bragging about her handsome husband?
- That her husband is handsome. - She came here to brag about him?
Man Gi must think,
"Why would you worry about something so useless?"
- He sounded that way, didn't he? - He did.
It might be a big worry for her.
Sometimes people do this.
You simply lost weight, but people think you got a surgery.
Right.
It personally makes me feel good.
- You feel good. - Yes.
It makes me wonder if I look that different.
I think it could be worrying.
After I turned 20,
I suddenly lost my baby fat.
Then I came back with another album.
- People commented... - They said you got something done.
that I got plastic surgery.
They made guesses about what I got done.
There were so many comments.
It means you became really pretty.
Right. But that didn't come up in my mind first.
I was just sad about being falsely accused.
- You were falsely accused. - You just lost weight.
The saddest situation is this.
You come out after getting a lot of plastic surgery.
And people leave comments like, "Why doesn't she get things done?"
(Please get surgery. Why is that celebrity so lazy?)
- That's the worst. - That's the worst.
That's the most tragic situation.
If it worried him that much, he should've wrote to us.
But his wife wrote to us.
- Her husband... - There must be a reason.
It must be very stressful for her husband...
for her to come out here for him.
Let's bring her in. Please come on out.
(Who is worried about her husband being accused...)
(of getting plastic surgery?)
(Im Ji Eun)
Didn't you come out here to brag about...
your handsome husband?
(That's not it.)
I am not here to brag. But honestly, my husband is very handsome.
I am so curious.
- We... - Would everyone gasp...
- at the sight of him? - Yes.
- Is he really that handsome? - You're here to brag about him.
No. No. We first met at the age of 17,
and we've been married for two years.
- He's got big eyes for a man. - He's got big eyes.
His nose is narrow and sharp.
His nose is sharp.
His face is slender too.
That's why people suspect that he had plastic surgery.
- People... - What do people say?
People think he's a plastic surgery monster.
They say he completely changed his face.
Do strangers say that too?
Yes. People whisper when we are outside.
They say,
"He must've had plastic surgery."
When I go to my friends' events,
people ask my friends if he had plastic surgery.
When my friends see a picture of him,
they ask if he got a nose job.
- Because he has a sharp nose. - Yes.
They ask if he got his eyes done.
Has your husband never gotten any plastic surgery done?
- Nothing. 100 percent. - How about injections?
- Not even injections. - Maybe you don't know.
We met since 17.
Maybe he got it done before 17.
When he was 16.
That's the one.
I realized that this was serious...
when our love story and photos...
were posted on a website.
They said they'll post it.
I only sent it...
to brag about our couple.
After people saw our pictures, they said that he was all plastic.
- "Is he Singer Adam?" - The comments.
- Adam? - Adam?
They said his face is that of a man destined to get a divorce.
Why would they say that?
I decided to come here because of malicious comments.
What if you say he got nothing done?
- Then what do they say? - They don't believe me.
- They don't believe me. - Are they like, "Come on?"
They try to touch his face.
But my husband's sensitive about his face.
He never lets anyone touch it especially his nose.
He doesn't even like me touching it.
People are more suspicious because he doesn't let them...
- touch him. - Yes, so they think he's done it.
They just come to a conclusion that he's got his nose done.
I found that unfair.
(My husband didn't get plastic surgery. Trust me.)
I can't wait to see him.
But her husband...
From where we're sitting, it looks like he's gotten work done.
Yes.
(This face surely isn't natural.)
His face doesn't look human.
- Isn't it stuffy? - Wait.
- Wait. - Let me get ready.
I'm looking forward to it.
If he takes off the mask,
and he doesn't look like he got plastic surgery,
the worry ends that moment.
- Yes. - The problem solved.
I'll reveal her husband's face.
Slowly.
(Curious)
(Eyes opening wide)
No.
(His face is revealed.)
(I see.)
(Now we know what she meant.)
I think I know what you mean.
It really looks like he got surgery on his eyes, and it came out wrong.
It also looks like he got the corners of his eyes done too.
- The nose. - He has a pretty nose.
It's sharp. Can we see your face from the side?
- Can you turn around? - This way.
- He has a very high nose. - It's really pretty.
His eyes look like he paid the deposit,
but didn't pay the full amount.
It looks like the doctor stopped in the middle of surgery.
They look like they aren't complete,
and the doctor did the corner of his eyes for free.
Do you understand your wife's worry?
I personally think it's not a worry.
People have been saying that to me since middle school.
- Since middle school? - Yes.
That's when kids start finding out about plastic surgery.
They asked me if I got my nose done or plastic surgery.
They would tell me to move my nose around.
I used to get angry because of it.
But now that I hear it so much, I'm used to it.
As for my wife,
she's not used to it yet.
- I think she was offended by it. - Right.
Did you get plastic surgery without telling your wife?
- Did you deceive her? - As for my eyes,
I didn't have double eyelids before.
After high school, the double eyelids began to form.
- Then you got them? - That's why it looks awkward.
As you said before. I paid the deposit,
- But not the full amount. - but not the full amount.
Seo Jang Hoon also didn't have double eyelids...
but one day, they suddenly formed.
- It's similar. - So I understand.
We'll show you pictures for proof.
We prepared pictures of his growth process.
- When he was three. - He was ordinary.
- He didn't have folds. - He really didn't.
- His nose looks ordinary. - It looks ordinary.
It's not that sharp. Oh, his eyes.
No, he will be mistaken.
His nose is not there yet.
- His eyes are too small. - His nose...
He's changing now.
- His nose is getting higher. - His nose is getting higher.
- It's getting higher. - He still has baby fat.
(That's the one.)
Is this when your eyes changed?
It started in high school.
He only had thin lines.
- Only thin lines. - Handsome.
I see why he's mistaken.
You must've been mistaken a lot when you were 20.
Yes, after they formed.
He's actually very handsome.
I thought he was a celebrity in the waiting room.
I saw him when he was putting on makeup.
Oh, I see.
Is that what you were trying to say?
That's not it.
It seems like you forget what you are trying to say.
We're surprised.
You probably had a question for him.
But it was like,
"I saw him in the waiting room."
Why would you suddenly talk about seeing him?
(Good luck.)
Due to your husband's look,
what was the biggest problem...
in terms of your relationship?
I'm sick of people gossiping about him,
but people assume he got plastic surgery...
because of his looks and have a prejudice against him.
- That he would be a certain type? - They're prejudiced.
They judge him based on the assumption that...
- that he got plastic surgery. - Yes.
- What do they say? - "What can he do..."
"when he's so pale?"
"He seems to like playing."
"He looks like a slacker."
"He looks like a player."
I actually felt it recently.
I am a firefighter.
- A firefighter? - Yes.
- That's a hard job. - Thank you for your work.
When people see me,
they say being a firefighter doesn't suit me.
You kind of look weak.
They say that I don't look like I'd be good at my job.
Every time I hear that,
I work harder than everyone else...
so that I can break that prejudice.
You sent us the story...
because you want to prove that your husband...
- didn't get any plastic surgery. - Yes.
Okay. We have someone here to be a witness to it.
His brother is here.
Hello. I'm his older brother, and I'm nine years older than him.
- 9 years? - I'm 9 years older than him.
The nose must be in the family.
- They both have sharp noses. - Yes.
Your sister-in-law is here with a worry.
Did you know she was worried about it?
I never thought it was a worry...
because my brother...
took after my father.
My father is pretty picky.
Since he was pretty sharp, I think he took after him.
We were talking about the face.
Since you saw him growing up,
you probably know if he got plastic surgery or not.
We lived together for more than 20 years.
He was born when I was in grade four.
It's not an exaggeration to say...
I know everything about his past.
His face is 100 percent natural.
I testify on his behalf.
We have a testimony.
His mother is here. Her mother-in-law.
When I was in my 20s,
many people thought I got plastic surgery too.
You too?
The whole family was under suspicion for plastic surgery.
Back then, women approached me.
Then they'd ask if I got my eyes done.
Even back then?
- Your double eyelids are defined. - They were a lot bigger back then.
They're saggy now.
(Her double eyelids brought on doubt.)
So I lowered my eyes,
and said, "Look. I didn't get my eyes done."
I used to...
- say that. - You did.
In order to reveal the truth behind these suspicions,
we took her husband to the hospital...
- for a check-up. - Really?
- You went to a hospital? - We got him checked up.
We'll give you one more chance.
Are you sure you've never got the plastic surgery done?
I'm kind of nervous, but yes.
Why are you nervous if you've never got it done?
Let's see the results through the video.
(Has he gotten any plastic surgery?)
He went to the hospital.
- That's... - It's an X-ray.
- Is it really necessary? - There might be something.
- Does it show in the X-ray? - It shows in the X-ray.
- It shows. - We're taking an X-ray of his face.
(Looking around)
That looks funny.
(Interesting)
(Nervous)
According to palpation and radiation examination opinion...
(And?)
(Why am I trembling?)
it's true that he never got any plastic surgery done.
His face is 100-percent natural...
with no plastic surgery.
My goodness.
(It's true.)
(It's true that he's never gotten plastic surgery.)
Near his cheekbones or jaw bones,
no signs of plastic surgery was found.
As for the nose,
if something's in his nose, it'd show,
but there is nothing.
- There's nothing there. - My goodness.
As people grow or age,
sometimes people get double eyelids naturally.
According to the medical result,
he didn't get a surgery done. It's 100-percent natural.
I feel relieved to announce it officially.
Congratulations. Problem solved.
I actually have one more worry...
that I'd like to make it public.
- Publicly? - Yes.
- I have a worry. - What is it?
(What is it?)
- What is it? - That my husband...
is married.
- I want to make it public. - Really?
When he goes out,
many people think he's single.
They're surprised to hear that he's a daddy.
- You have a baby? - You have a baby?
- He's 15 months old. - 15 months old.
Was your husband next to you when you gave birth?
Yes, he was.
I'm just saying.
He cut the umbilical cord.
He cut the umbilical cord himself.
Unless you reveal it here,
would people try to seduce him?
I'm afraid people would try to seduce him outside.
It's up to your husband.
One time, we went to a restaurant.
One waitress was very nice to him...
- and smiling at him. - Were you there?
- I wasn't there. - No.
I was watching them from a distance.
She was very nice to him,
so I went up to him because I was suspicious.
Her face froze.
Why were you watching him from a distance?
It's because I was a little bit worried.
- Some women... - Do you always watch him like that?
(Like this.)
How can I not look at him when he's that handsome?
I admit that he's good looking.
But he's not extremely, incredibly handsome.
I don't think he's that handsome.
You can see a lot of handsome men these days.
- He's right. - Do you understand your wife?
What do you think?
I can't understand why she's worried at all.
I think my wife is too sensitive about it.
For example,
when I have a new haircut,
she gets angry because my hair is too short...
and that makes me look younger than my age.
She says, "Whom did you want to impress with a new haircut?"
That's what she usually says.
- That's not all. - My goodness.
When I meet my friends,
I can't go alone. She wants to go with me.
So...
There's another problem.
When I have work get-together,
I have to call her every hour.
Every hour?
- No matter what. - She sounds a bit obsessive.
(She seems to be obsessed with him.)
What if you fail to do so?
If I miss the timing...
or forget to call her,
and I call her two hours later,
she gives me the cold shoulder that night.
(A cold war begins.)
I think he should sit down here.
- I think he should be here. - Exactly.
(Sighing)
Why do you need him to call you that often?
There could be a woman who asks him out...
when he's out.
(Here she goes again.)
The most serious problem...
is that she installed a tracking application on my phone.
(She installed tracking application on his phone.)
That's why she was watching him from a distance.
Oh, that's why.
- She was watching him... - Is there such an application...
- like that? - About two years ago,
my wife suggested...
I should install the application on my phone.
She wants to know where I go and what I do.
- I think you crossed the line. - But...
I had my reasons.
- You had your reasons? - Of course I had my reasons.
If not, it would've been a problem.
Since he told me...
petty lies before...
- What kind of lies did he tell you? - He went to the batting cages.
He went, but he didn't tell me beforehand.
- I see. - I found a picture of him...
- when I went through his phone. - You did?
- He had a picture on his phone. - Right.
Did you go through his phone?
(Oh, my.)
- We share our phone passwords. - I see.
Once he broke my trust...
That's one of the things he did to break your trust.
Also, he has many female friends.
- He has many female friends? - He's been using the same number...
for a very long time.
I have seen text messages from his ex-girlfriends...
that said, "How are you going?"
What she said is true,
but I swear to you...
that I have never done anything that would worry my wife.
Even when my friends ask me...
to go to a night club with them,
I firmly refused to go.
- I made it clear I wouldn't go. - Of course.
However, she couldn't trust me.
She kept getting the wrong idea and worrying.
It seemed that she has developed a type of delusional jealousy.
(That's a serious problem.)
(Worried)
In fact, I think I became insecure...
after I gave birth to my baby.
I used to wear size 44.
But I gained a lot of weight. Now, I wear size 77.
I feel depressed once in a while.
(The skinny and pretty girl she used to be is gone.)
(She feel like an old lady, which lowers her self-esteem.)
In that case, is there anything...
you want your husband to do?
What can he do to earn your trust back?
I just want him to call me...
as often as he can...
and change his phone number.
(I want him to change his phone number.)
- His phone number. - You want him to change his number?
He's been using the same number for a very long time.
I'm afraid his ex-girlfriend might call him.
It happened before...
Everyone he dated in the past has his number.
- Exactly. - They all have his number.
They have his number...
even though he doesn't have theirs.
Once you start to have doubts about your partner,
you can't think clearly even about small things...
just as people normally do.
- You can't stop having doubts. - Right.
- He's right. - Your husband...
is a firefighter, and he seems to me to be an upright person.
The biggest problem you have...
is your trust in your husband.
Even if he changes his number, you won't trust him completely.
Every couple goes through this phase.
When my wife gave birth to our baby,
I was so busy traveling across the country for gigs.
I went home late almost every day.
My wife once said in tears while we were arguing...
that she was very depressed...
since she had to stay home with the baby all day long.
It's normal for you to feel that way at times like this.
But you should try to trust your husband.
It's understandable.
(She tears up.)
Give her some tissues.
(Her family members feel bad for her.)
Considering the situation, until your wife becomes secure...
- She has postpartum depression. - He should make her feel secure.
You can call her before she asks you to call her.
You should make a lot of effort.
You see,
people usually think...
married people know better about marriage.
However, from my perspective, to maintain a happy marriage,
you shouldn't think you own your partner.
- "You're mine." - Exactly. That's not right.
You two should learn how to live together as two individuals.
- You should respect each other. - If you think you own your partner,
you come to change his personality the way you want it to be.
And I can assure you...
that you don't have to be worried because of his face.
I couldn't tell you earlier because I felt bad.
But I hate men who look like him. I'm serious.
(Suddenly attacked)
Look at his eyes. Look.
Do you think he's that handsome, Jeong Hwa?
You should tell honestly now.
Well, he's not really...
(Well, he's not really...)
- I don't think... - Look at his face.
he's so handsome...
that she should be worried about him.
(Relieved)
They all agree with her.
- That's right. - They all agree.
I mean, we didn't ask them to applaud.
Sir, have a look at his face.
He's not as handsome as you expected, right?
He's not as handsome as me.
Are you serious?
Really?
(That feels so good.)
Tell your wife what you always wanted to say.
- "Honey." - Honey,
I know how much effort you've been making...
for me and our daughter.
You're too good for me.
So don't let things like that lower your self-esteem, honey.
Let's become happier.
- I love you. - Tell her how much you love her.
How much does she love me?
How much do you love me?
(How much do you love me?)
What?
You were supposed to tell your wife how much you love her,
- not asking her that question. - I see.
He's so slow-witted.
I don't even ask for directions to a slow-witted person like him.
My daughter-in-law, I have been...
married to your father-in-law for 37 years.
However, he has never done anything...
that made me worry about the things you're worried about.
Whatever happens, trust me, your father-in-law,
and your husband.
I love you, my daughter-in-law.
(It warms my heart.)
Say a word to your husband.
Honey, it must be hard for you...
since you're the only person who makes money.
(She tears up again.)
I know that, but I couldn't be more understanding...
because I was stressed out. I'm sorry for that.
I hope we'll continue to live...
a happy life with our baby.
(Let's do that.)
I'm actually jealous of this couple.
I bet the guest from Cheonan...
is jealous of her.
Sir, her mother-in-law, brother-in-law, and especially...
her husband came here because she has postpartum depression.
(Yes.)
Having a baby is challenging for a woman.
- Exactly. - Give her a hug.
- Give her a hug. - She's crying.
- Give her a hug. - That's good.
Since you hugged her, why don't you give her a kiss too?
Kiss her. Kiss her.
- Kiss her. - Give her a kiss.
- Kiss her. - Kiss her.
- Come on. - Kiss her.
(We wish you happiness.)
Let's start with Key. Do you think it's a worry?
- I don't think it's a worry. - You don't?
I don't think it's a worry.
- I don't think it's a worry either. - I see.
I think it's a worry from the wife's perspective.
I didn't think it was a worry,
but I changed my mind.
I think it's a worry.
Try to put yourself in her shoes,
and if you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Time's up.
"Not a Monster".
Please show us the result.
Is it over 100?
How many votes?
- She got 61 votes. - Right.
- I wish you happiness. - Thank you.
"My Husband's Two Homes" is this week's winner.
- Congratulations. - Congratulations.
The winner will receive cash prize.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you. - Thank you.
("I Love You" by EXID)